What passes for love in popular music videos, television, and film often has very little to do with what Gandhi means by the force of love. Instead, what we often see is an intersection of coercion, aggression, mere physical desire, passivity (“falling in love” as though it took no work, or putting up with abuse in the name of “loving” someone), selfishness and manipulation for personal gain pretending to be love. Love is the antithesis of these states. More like a skill and an art, love is active, sincere, and simple. When consciously harnessed and applied to our relationships big and small, it becomes identical with the practice of nonviolence. Capable as we all are– by virtue of being human — of this kind of love, we nonetheless have to develop this skill daily to know its full potential.
Boycott the next film or product that misrepresents love as a passive or selfish state. Take that energy and apply it to the practice of working for the welfare of another.
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